Male Chauvinist or Not??

i wonder: Will you want a male chauvinist for a husband?? or not?? I think sometimes man can be a little chauvinist, and that actually makes our life as a housewife, feel better u know?
If your male chauvinist husband does not comment much or bother much about how you do your housework, don't you think you will have more freedom and more control over what you want to do at home and set your standards rather than having someone to bossing around his standards meet?? I rather have somebody who will treat me better in other ways, like giving me massage, or giving small surprises to make me happy, a hug before work, a tap on my shoulder when i needed encouragement, or sms me with words that will make me smile.... and not telling me off to throw whatever that's on the table at home, arranging things on my table when i need to see them for a few days, or mop the living room floor with the mop used for mopping the bathroom (*faints) ... or keep digging new rags to wet-clean the fan, table, shelves, aircon, cupboards etc.... (*faints!!!) don't they know many furnitures will get spoilt easier with their wet wet cloths??? Can't they save on the absorbing tissue cleaning wipes by re-using them often???? Can't they clean the windows more gently? Can't they just stop all these nonsense and jus sit down and don touch these la!!!! The shorten the lifespan of the parquet flooring with their wet mops, they moisten the tables and cupboards and shelves with their wet cloths... they create more unhappiness and conflicts with their wives when they start making a fuss over the belongings laid on the table for packing.... why can't they just .... THINK how they can make their wives feel more appreciated, rather than messing things up even farther!???

haiiiii
sighzzzzzz.........

i wish my husband can just help to look after the children, and not bother by how we woman do our housework, or WHEN we do the housework!!! ... and instead, volunteer to massage me after whole day of cooking and housework.... send me a delivery lunch when i almost have nothing to eat in the office.... pop me a text sms wishing me great day at work.... i wish he sees my blog and understand what i m thinking about... haiiii....

a hiding member

i joined jjfc naturally after helping Carol to redesign their jjfc website....

somehow because of his clothes, i naturally created this colour theme.... which sort of blend with my blog header ISN"T IT!!!?? :P :P :P not on purpose ok.... but yeah, i love orange!!....

i feel honoured to be a hiding member hahahaha... doing such tasks, and not able to participate in almost all activities due to family committment, where i will try to in future, and playing his songs on piano, listening to his songs and appreciating his works and understand him better as a person (through carol's sharing).... so much so, i feel more like a hiding devoted member.....

Stress or Guess??

Was wondering whether i m really stressed out lately.... or just my guess of colon problems..... i saw some info about colon cancer and started imagining things, thinking that i may have initial stage experience.....

I told my chinese doctor and he immediately urged me to buy some remedy. i did as he instructed. but still cramping... and wind..... and water..... haiiii...... it's been 2 days..... is it the food i eat?? or is it i just have been thinking too much lately.....

have taken up a freelance job which occupied my late night hours for the past week.
But i have also been doing night reading at night too, also the same timings!
In addition, i guess this year is just a very emotional year for me.
I have many things in my mind.... many feelings in fact. many deep feelings for many pple i encounter this year. Old friends, colleagues, .... memories keep coming back, kept thinking about lots of things. Lots of feelings i should say. Lots of love emotions i should also say. Why am i like that!? Why can't i be more cold towards human relationships? Why can't i stop feeling so sentimentally???

Think before you burn!

THIS MORNING i saw 2 big metal burners downstairs again... they were placed almost at the centre of the road between some blocks. Are they going to burn again? Why why why.... i wish there are panels (like advetisements) telling them, reminding them to think before they burn!!

Why don't they think how the incense papers are produced or made? Aren't they made up by the normal way papers or flyers are made? ... just like all other paper products, paperbags, flyers, books, newspapers etc.... they all come from recycled papers, just printing different designs and imprinting of different buddhist scriptures or pictures or images on it. They are not as if they were being imprinted by the monks or printed by prayers or chants, THEY ARE NOT!!! So, realistically saying, they are just merely burning papers!!! What's the difference between burning those flyers or books and these papers??

Why don't they think how the smoke and ashes causes hazards to many many others around??
Why don't they think how the smoke and air cause hurts/damages the earth? Don't they realise that other people in the other parts of the world are already creating enough hazards burning forests??? The smoke that everyone have to suffer by breathing in, suffocating for some, creating hazy unhealthy air thereafter, aren't they bothered???? None of them are reflecting??? Why why why!???

Yes, in buddhism, there uses to be teachings telling pilgrimages to burn incense sticks, papers etc... for some reasons for some beliefs etc.... but but but things change! Generation changes, lifestyle changes, society changes, our earth temperature global temperature changed!! Din they continue to realise what the latter day of practice will be??? They can't be burning forever definitely!!! That's only killing the earth by the doble speed or even triple!! Why din they read this part about buddhism - to do only if it does not harm the environment, does not harm others and themselves!???? Buddhism is but about daily life isn't it!?? Why did they choose to believe things blindly and not thinking of the consequences??? Why do they follow when they are asked to burn, and why not follow when they are asked by the "earth's requests" NOT to burn anymore??

Everytime i see them burn, i feel super sorry for the earth. i wish somebody can just talk them into stopping burning, and start thinking what does it do!!! If they think that burning is a way to send things to their deceased loved ones, if they think burning papers is a way to atone their sins, DOES it make any sense???? How can the ashes make sense to atone your sins!?? How can the ashes show sincerity!??? How can the smoke be a benefit to the deceased or the ashes or how can ashes be transformed to something their deceased can receive!!!???
How how how!?? Why don't they all think think think!!!

How many years do we have to suffer all these acts that makes no more sense in this latter day of the law!??

I wish the monks at the temples tell them!!! Aren't they feeling something for the earth?? Aren't they practicing for the goodness of human beings? Then if so, why are they killing the earth which is not achieving the goodness of human beings, not helping at all right???

Wake up people wake up!!!

That reminds me of my MIL she is also the "burner" that cause the hazard to earth... haiiiz.... i wish her children can talk her to think of her beliefs again. I wish she can feel what she is burning for!! If only all makes sense to her, and people like her can think wisely before they continue to burn blindly.....

The hidden Love Trap

Why do we fall into the Love trap and be the man's slave for life?
Too late to realise this line.
It's not that we are not willing to fall into the trap.
It's how we will be appreciated even if we have to become the slave for life.
Do we deserve being treated like a fool?
When we talk to them during times of relationship, they treat it as sweet talk, sweetie's talking etc... But after we get married, when we talk, it is direct treatment as "nag". We can't even talk anymore. We can't change them anymore. No advice allowed. No requests allowed. We just do our own businesses. We just do what we are supposed to. Whatever they do, we clear the backend junk DISCREETLY. cannot say NO. cannot complain. cannot say WRONG. cannot ask for improvement. Whatever they NOT do, we will have to do it willingly and quietly. Whatever they do correctly, or whatever they've helped, we MUST say thank you. We must bear all. What are we?

Yes, slaves. Slaves when they choose not to be bothered. Wife when they present you to others. Mother when they need their kids to call upon. Other than that, we are just like a bomb which is forced to delay explosion as long as we can. They can slam, they can scold, they can throw, they can shout, they can beat. But we woman choose to keep. Because we have to protect the young ones around. We have to continue to uphold the greatness of woman- as a mother. We have to cover the unpleasantness of the situation/scenario so that the kids do not get confused and lost. We have to continue to let the lives of the children keep going, positively.

Yes, we shall keep silent. We shall bear all the foolish acts man can be insensible of doing. We shall be the one to give in and take all the sacrifices, for the children. We shall grow old, turn ugly, and give all we can to the goodness of our children. We shall be the backup and firm ground for the children to look upon to, to lean on, and to depend on.... until they are independent enough and be wise on their own. We live on with peers' support, encouraged by friends we treasure, buddies we lean on, elders we trust and share. Even at times we feel like we are at the peak, life will still go on, because they are there. Until many years will go by... we shall then be old and ugly, but proud and free. Looking into the mirror, it's wrinkles and freckles. Out of the house, it's looking for wild plans.

Is this why woman is the great man?
Am i the great man?
Are u the great man?